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By LIFE DESIGN GRADUATE
NAME: Eloise King
STAR SIGN: Aquarius
AGE: 29

Success & You’s August newsletter inspired me to get off my lazy behind and find myself a lover. After being officially single for just over two years, the thing that struck the loudest chord for me was that if I wanted a different result in my love life I had to start doing things differently to get it. It also dared me, the reader, to be bold.

There was actually one guy that I silently had the hots for. The only hurdle was that he was my doctor, which placed a fairly significant ethical dilemma for him professionally in front of us getting together. He was also doctor to my 2-year-old son Max.

I had no idea what he thought about me outside of our doctor-patient relationship, or even if he thought of me at all. But the newsletter’s message was to “be bold”, so I picked up the phone and made an appointment for Max at another medical centre for the following day. I then made a separate appointment for myself. When that was done, I sat down and wrote my soon-to-be ex-doctor a letter.

Dear ________,
To cut a long story short, I am required to ask somebody out by today’s date, 31 August 2007. The only specification is that they must be sexy, smart, kind-hearted, independent and have a good career under their belt. So I’ve picked you and here goes…

I was hoping that you might like to come and do the Long Reef coastal walk with me one Saturday over the next couple of weeks? I hear it is great and I am keen to explore more of the area since moving to the northern beaches recently.

Here are some of the reasons why you should accept:

  1. I’m sexy à I do realise I have looked like death warmed up every time we meet because of whatever illness I have been suffering so you will just have to trust me on this one (I’m laughing at myself here)
  2. I’m smart à All journalists are (I’m laughing even harder now)
  3. I’m kind à except when people annoy me… then I have to work really hard to be kind
  4. I’m independent à in so many ways but love having good friends and family around me
  5. I have a great career that I love and am very proud of
  6. At the very least, you might make a new friend
  7. If that doesn’t happen, you may discover a great new walk to take future dates on
  8. I think seven’s enough so I will stop now

If I don’t hear from you I will take it as one big fat rejection and you should feel very bad about that. Just kidding ;o).  Oh and I have made a doctors appointment at a new medical centre for both Max and I  which means  you’re no longer our doctor so that’s no excuse. Anyway, I hope to hear from you soon but will also completely understand if I don’t. I hope you are well. I am! 

Eloise King 
Mob #: ________________

Feeling really alive, I folded the letter, wrote my sexy ex-doctor’s name on the envelope then drove to his workplace (the only contact details I had for him). Taking what felt like a massive risk, I left it with the receptionist. (Only afterwards did I realise I’d neglected to mark the envelope with `private and confidential’.)

A week went past and I heard nothing.

“I think the dream is dead” I replied to a friend’s supportive inquiries. I’d surrendered. Then, that very afternoon, as if on cue, he called. He told me his parents had been visiting from interstate and had been staying with him for the past week. He’d just dropped them off at the airport and wondered whether Max and I wanted to get out for a walk with him and his newly acquired dog. Wow. We then spoke during the week and spent the following Saturday together again out walking and lunching, this time without Max and the dog. 

It’s obviously very early days and I’m not sure where, if anywhere, the whole thing is going. But to be perfectly honest, I don’t really care because I know whatever will be, will be. What I do know, however, is that by taking a bold new step that projected me out of my comfort zone, I got a different, exciting and very positive result!

It also placed me smack bang back on the dating scene after a two year hiatus. So if you are male, single, sexy, smart, kind-hearted, independent and have good career under your belt, we should have a drink. Email me at: eloiseking@bigpond.com. If nothing else happens, you might make a new friend. And if that doesn’t happen you might discover a great new bar to take future dates to ;o)
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